Here’s hoping that I am not nearly as sick as I think I am. As it is, I don’t think I’m going to be going to a punk rock show tonight. I think I’ll be hanging out at home on the couch watching documentaries on Netflix and drinking tea. 2011 could have been better, could have been worse. But before I kick it in the ass on the way out the door, I want to cover a few things that have happened while I was suffering in the throes of one of the worst writer’s blocks of my life.
Hugo Schwyzer. Those of you who have read Polimicks for any length of time know that Clarisse Thorn and I have disagreed before, basically she thinks that we shouldn’t call creepy guys creepy because that’s “demonizing” their sexuality. While I think we shouldn’t call them creepy because it’s an imprecise term, and that we should be very direct and vocal about what creepy guys are doing that makes them creepy, i.e. pushing boundaries, not taking no for an answer, staring, cat-calling… However, that aside, she interviewed self-declared male feminist Hugo Schwyzer and posted the interview at Feministe. This stirred up quite a shitstorm, as Schwyzer has admitted to sleeping with female students of his, attempting to murder an ex-girlfriend (coming clean about this only after a lawyer assured him he was past the statute of limitations for the crime). Many feminists object to an abusive, attempted murderer speaking for them. Others feel that we owe it to him to forgive him because he’s changed. If you want the whole kerfuffle, here is Thorn’s response to the Feministe commentariat calling her out. The Feministe apology for posting the interview in the first place. And here some other posts discussing why people were/are offended by Schwyzer’s claims of feminism.
I think we all know where I stand on the forgiveness issue.
Essentially, I think Schwyzer’s full of crap. I don’t think he’s changed. I think he’s just found flogging the repentance schtick to be lucrative. But then again, I am infamously cynical. Go read it all and make up your own mind.
Thing the second: Lunam, a fifteen year old atheist, posted a picture of herself holding a copy of Carl Sagan’s “Demon-Haunted World” on Reddit. This picture of a fully clothed minor woman of course engendered a comment thread full of gross sexual come-ons, rape threats, and promises of anal rape. Because of course any female being who posts pictures of themselves want overgrown douchebags to say sexually explicit, incredibly gross and threatening things to them, you know, instead of wanting to discuss the object she photographed herself with.
All three women discuss why making sexually gross and threatening comments to a fifteen year old who wants to talk about atheism is wrong. And all three get a heaping helping of mansplanation and their own sexually gross and threatening comments as a result. Because that’s logical and rational. Fuck me running with a chainsaw. Seriously, guys. Is it that threatening, the idea of not being a douche to women who want to talk to you? Lest anyone think that this bad behavior is the sole province of atheists, just be female and pipe up on X-box Live or one of several video or role-playing game forums. Hell, for that matter, come out as female anywhere on the web and just wait. I wish I could say this surprised me, but it doesn’t. It’s sadly predictable, and equally fucking annoying.
Thing the Third: Honey Badger, the punk rock band I sing with, has it’s next show on January 7th. We did our first show on November 19th, and did all right. I hope we’ll be even more ready for this next show. I have to say of everything that happened in 2011, forming Honey Badger with my husband, Lukas and K2 has been the best. Honestly, I think this is the best thing to have happened to me, for my own sense of accomplishment and self-worth, in decades. I want to send a huge thank you to my bandmates for putting up with with my wibbling over the songs I’ve written, for putting up with me bursting into tears on the nights the music won’t come for whatever reason, for dealing with my inability to tell when I’ve sung something well. Thank you, all of you, for encouraging and nurturing me through this process. I’ll post links to our demo tracks as soon as they’re up. Promise.